The Cost of Being a Bridesmaid


By Stephanie Berenbaum – July 7, 2011

Tips to Help Save Your Maids Money

It is of course an honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid.  Having said that, anyone who has been a “maid” knows that there are lots of costs involved – some financial, others involving your dignity!

Over drinks with a few friends, Fab & Fru started reminiscing about the good, bad and the (seriously) ugly of being a bridesmaid.  All those cocktails resulted in an open letter of sorts to brides everywhere who are about to ask their closest friends to go down the wedding path (petal strewn or otherwise) with them!  So, Brides to Be, please keep the following in mind:

Friendship Can Really Add Up

Brandi did a quick calculation and determined that over the past ten years, she has likely spent over $3,000 on bridesmaids dresses!  While she was happy to stand up for each and every friend and relative, and most of the dresses were quite pretty, she hasn’t been able to wear any of them since… So, brides, PLEASE take into account that even though this is your special day, and you want to feel like a princess, your friends almost certainly do not have the budgets to dress like royalty!

Paying to Look Like Everyone Else

And while we’re on the topic of picking bridesmaid dresses, we have to ask — isn’t it usually considered to be totally embarrassing to show up to a party wearing the same dress as another guest? We’re not sure why it’s ok to do this at weddings, but nowhere else!

But one thing we are sure of – no matter WHAT the bride says, that one dress she’s picked out will NOT look good on everyone. It just won’t. Our one friend Liz commented this really added insult to injury – to spend loads of money on a dress you’ll never wear again and then to feel like people are comparing which “maid” looks best in the dress.  So, brides: Consider choosing a color or style, and let your friends pick the actual dress so they can look their best!

Don’t Forget the Shoes!

We all sat around reminiscing of the crazy shades of shoes we’ve been forced to have “dyed to match” – this is especially useful when the bridesmaid’s dress is so long that no one can see your shoes anyway.  Our friend Kelly talked sort of wistfully of the rejected pile of sea foam green, blush, and maize colored satin-y shoes relegated to the back of her closet.  Again, brides, give your friends a break – if you’re not going to be able to see their shoes anyway, don’t ask them to spend more on matching pumps – let them shop in their own closets instead!

Is Hair & Makeup Included?

Our friend Amanda was recounting a wedding that she was in where the bride insisted that they all get their hair and makeup professionally done – and asked the bridesmaids to cover the costs!  So, brides, we understand wanting your maids to look their most beautiful, and it’s one thing if you want to treat your friends to a fun afternoon glam session, but please, do not expect your maids to cover this expense!

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