Giving The Ring Back?!

When Jon asked Elizabeth to marry him eight months ago, he got down on one knee and slipped his grandmother’s 1 1/2 karat diamond and platinum ring onto Elizabeth’s finger.  The happy couple immediately began to plan their Fall wedding and couldn’t wait for their big day.  Except for the fact that life seemed to be getting busier and busier, Jon and Elizabeth seemed right on track.  That is until Elizabeth saw an ‘I love you’ text on Justin’s phone from another woman…  Sick to her stomach, a tearful Elizabeth confronted her finance who soon confessed to having an affair.  Not only was he cheating, he had fallen in love.  The next day he was gone.

Elizabeth was devastated.  How could this have happened?  How could he do this to her?

A few weeks later, Jon sent Elizabeth’s father a check for the money he had already spent on the wedding, and he sent Elizabeth one month’s rent for leaving her to foot the bill for their apartment.  He then sent her an email asking for his grandmother’s ring back…  Elizabeth and her friends were outraged.  Did Jon really expect her to return the ring that he gave her – even if it had sentimental value for he and his family?

Elizabeth refused to give the ring back, saying that he is the one who broke his promise, not her.  The ring was a gift to her and no longer belonged to Jon.  Besides, she needed the money to help pay her rent.  And with that, she took the ring to an antique jeweler and sold it on the spot!

Was Elizabeth’s engagement ring hers to sell?  Should she have returned it to Jon, even though she is not the one who called off the engagement?  Does it make a difference that it was his grandmother’s ring?  If your finance called off your engagement, would you give him back the ring?  Tell us what you think!



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11 Responses to “Giving The Ring Back?!”

  1. Kiki says:

    She should have had the dignity to return the ring. It was his grandmothers. Obviously he didn’t expect to fall in love with someone else. I gave my ring back and didn’t want to keep it a minute longer. It did not belong to me anymore.

  2. Pamela says:

    First of all, what a JERK! But since it belonged to his grandmother, she should have given it back. He did a horrible thing betraying her like that, but he did give her father money and a month’s rent. The ring is a separate thing. If he bought it for her, she could sell it outright, but since it was a family ring, I think she was wrong to sell it.

  3. Liz V says:

    I understand the hurt she must have felt, emotions aside an engagement is a legal contract TO BE FULFILLED, if it is not fulfilled the ring goes back. She is not entitled to keep the ring. If she doesn’t get it back from pawn he can sue her and get the ring. He can also argue that he gave her money for the rent and a judge would say that she needs to get a more affordable apartment for herself. Remember S-it happens in life and you have to be able to get on with your life at least on a day to day basis when S-it happens. I am not making excuses for anyone but at least he had the decency to pay his half of the wedding expenses. I do hope the best for her and at least you found out early about what kind of person he was. After all you do need closure in the best way you can get it. The high road is a lonely road.

  4. Jessica says:

    Yes, she should have sent it back… the ring is a symbol of something that did not happen, not a gift. She should have thanked him for letting her see his true colors! The same situation happened to me and I gave the ring back. What goes around comes around!

  5. SA says:

    Grandmother’s ring or not, she should have given it back. The ring is meant to be a symbol of your love and your commitment to each other. Granted, he trashed all that by cheating and is a world-class jerk for it, but that doesn’t mean she gets to keep the ring once the engagement is off. She had every right to be angry and hurt and although it’s tempting to want revenge, selling the ring was inappropriate.

  6. Faye says:

    This is a tough call, but i do agree with the logic that the ring was a gift to her and therefore to do with as she pleases. Regardless of whether it has been in his family for years or recently bought, he gave it to her. It is rough that she decided to sell it considering the sentimental value he attached to it. However, he should have thought of that before he proposed and then decide he would let himself fall in love with someone else.

  7. carol says:

    It was his grandmother’s ring which means there is much karma attached to it. Besides that it was a family heirloom, why would she want to keep it. Now, maybe Elizabeth should consider selling it back to Jon. Name your price girl. I don’t think lover boy should get off that easily….

  8. carol says:

    @Faye, I don’t think Jon ‘let’ himself fall in love, things that are meant to be will happen and things that are not meant to be will fall apart. Life dishes out some deep lessons which are sometimes difficult to accept.

  9. Debby says:

    I agree that selling the ring back is a good idea. It will take the sting out of being jilted and Jon will get the ring back and hopefully have learned not to be such a cad anymore.

  10. Amy Saves says:

    She should have given it back. Yes, he’s a bastard for cheating on her, but like SA said, it’s a symbol of love and commitment. Since that was broken, send it back!

  11. LM says:

    I know this is a serious topic. but what comes to my mind was: give the ringback!

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