What Comes Around Goes Around?


Last Saturday night, Kari and her friends Josie and Stella were out for a night on the town in lower Manhattan.  Because they all lived in the same neighborhood, the ladies decided to share a taxi home to Brooklyn at the end of the night.  The total cab ride, with tip, came to about $20, but the problem came when Josie and Stella realized they had no cash – and you can’t split a taxi ride on three credit cards…  Luckily Kari had the cash to cover the ride.

When Kari saw her friends a few evenings later, neither of them offered to pay her back their share.  This unwritten rule among the friends had developed that if you fronted money for a taxi or drinks, it would eventually come back to you - assuming you were at the right place at the right time.  However, this rule kind of bothered Kari, and she thought it was rather unfair.  But still, she decided to keep her feelings to herself and let the whole thing slide.

Was Kari right to let things go and assume that her friends will eventually pick up her tab too at some point?  Or should she politely speak up and change the friends’ money borrowing policy before any more resentment builds.  What would you do?  Tell us what you think!

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5 Responses to “What Comes Around Goes Around?”

  1. filochick1982 says:

    I would have politely reminded them about the cab fare, and told a white lie that I was running short of cash the next time due to having to cover the whole cab fare. Frankly, I find it rude that people would just forget about it, and hope the other person was too proud to ask for the money back. Whenever I owe money to friends or they to me, it’s always paid back ASAP, and no one needs any reminding. I would hate to have friends like Kari’s!

  2. Esmeralda says:

    “Was Kari right to let things go and assume that her friends will eventually pick up her tab too at some point?”

    NO! Kari should have reminded her friends about the money they owed her for the cab ride. Sometimes friends just forget about money. I know I do. And I don’t do it because I’m cheap or don’t want to pay my friend back. I do it because I honestly forget, especially when we’re talking about $5-10. I never get offended when my friends ask me for their money. I do, however, feel embarrassed that I forgot to pay them back. LOL. So I try to not do it again.

    When my friends forget to pay me back, I tell them straight out: “hey, do you remember the $10 from last weekend?” I don’t necessarily expect them to pay me $10 cash right there and then, but I do expect to get a free drink at the bar or restaurant. My advice is to remind them as soon as you get to the restaurant or happy hour place. It’s very likely your friends will offer to pay for your drink or appetizer. Chances are they’ll pay with their card because they won’t have cash on them… again.

  3. Leslie says:

    Five or ten dollars does add up. When people owe you money, they should pay immediately, or you should remind them. Sometimes what is fair never comes your way and you have to speak up.

  4. natashab1980 says:

    A closed mouth doesn’t get fed!! If Kari didn’t speak up, then she shouldn’t expect to see that $20 again. The unwritten rule between me and my friends goes..you don’t have any cash and I pay for it, no big deal. Now it will usually get paid back later via drinks, atm run, etc. Her friends could have also genuinely forgot. At the end of the day, she needs to say something if she reals wants her money back.

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  5. carol says:

    I would let it go the first time but if it continually happened I would definitely start asking to be paid back or simply make it clear upon laying out the money that it’s a loan in a pinch and you expect to be reimbursed.

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