Beg, Borrow Or Steal?


Last week, Ginny was out to dinner with Beth, a friend from work.  Beth started talking about how she was struggling to find an affordable dress to wear to her cousin’s black tie wedding – which was just four days away!  She confessed to Ginny that she was on a shoestring budget and really couldn’t afford any of the new dresses she had found so far… Always willing to help avert a fashion crisis, Ginny told Beth she had a very chic solution for waiting for her – right in her own closet!

After dinner, the two ladies stopped by Ginny’s apartment so Beth could try on Ginny’s elegant, ruby red vintage dress.  It fit Beth perfectly.  She was thrilled – it was a fashion victory.

Cut to the Monday after the wedding…  Beth showed up to work with Ginny’s dress – and horror in her eyes.  Somewhere between the end of the wedding and walking through her front door, Beth sat on a pen and got a big blot of black ink right on the seat of Ginny’s vintage gown!  Not wanting to make the stain worse, Beth fessed up to the accident, but wanted Ginny to decide the next best cleaning measures.

Though she was a bit devastated, Ginny also felt awkward because given Beth’s financial situation she knew there was no way Beth could afford to have her vintage treasure properly cleaned.  Trying to process all the info at once, Ginny spoke before really thinking things through.  She quickly told Beth not to worry about it and that she would handle the cleaning of the dress.  Beth apologized profusely and then went back to work…

Even though Ginny said she’d deal with the stain, later that night she had misgivings about letting Beth off the hook.  Given Ginny’s knowledge of Beth’s financial situation, should she talk to Beth again about having her pay for all or part of the cleaning bill?  Or since Ginny already told her not to worry about it, should she just leave it alone?

Tell us what you think!

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2 Responses to “Beg, Borrow Or Steal?”

  1. Sue Kiene says:

    Looking at this from several prospectives, most people would probably have the dress cleaned regardless after someone had worn it for an evening. The wearer should pay that bill. Ginny knew it was possible that something could happen to the dress by lending it out. Something could have happened if she had been wearing the dress as well. I think that Beth did the right thing by fessing up right away instead of trying to get the problem taken care of without Ginny knowing it happened. That might have ended up with a totally impossible mess. Ginny should go talk to whomever she would have clean the dress, see if they think it is possible to get the stain out, and the cost. If they say no she has to make a decision and if they say yes, she has to make a decision. I think she needs to go to Beth and let her know what the cleaner has said. If it is to try cleaning the dress, then knowing the cost, ask Beth to at a minimum split the cost with her. It would be hard for Ginny not to harbor some bad feelings regarding the whole situation if she does not address the situation. It appears that they were friends enough that she was willing to let her borrow the dress so does she really want the friendship to change. I would hope that Beth would feel the same way and be glad to do her share.

    To end this, I would also think that Ginny would think twice about lending out things she treasures or are irreplaceable. By the way, who says Beth had to buy a dress, they have places where you can rent them.

  2. Molly says:

    Ginny is a moron for lending out a dress that’s vintage and “near and dear” to her heart. Hopefully a lesson learned.

    That said, she should ask Beth to pay for the cleaning, and tell her that she realized that Beth felt so bad about getting a stain on it, Ginny said, “don’t worry” in haste. Truth is, while Beth may not have been able to afford to buy a new dress, she certainly can afford to clean one she borrowed and got ink on. I think it’s perfectly fine for Ginny to tell Beth she thought it though and Beth should pay for the cleaning.

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