The Sort Of Gift Card

Vanessa has an awkward family dilemma… For her 40th birthday in October, her grandmother gave her a handwritten card saying that she’d was treating Vanessa to a day at the spa of her choice – a massage, a facial, the works…

Vanessa was extremely touched by the gift and very much looking forward to booking her day of relaxation.  But as soon as Thanksgiving hit, she quickly got sucked in all the holiday hoopla, and decided it was best to push her spa day to early January.

The problem… Vanessa’s grandmother has a bad hip and hasn’t been feeling her best.  She hasn’t even mentioned the spa day since Vanessa’s birthday, and Vanessa knows that her grandmother has been doing some alternative therapy and paying for it out of pocket.  Vanessa fears that the whole gesture may have slipped her grandmother’s mind completely, or worse – what if money may has gotten tight?  Vanessa certainly doesn’t want to add to her grandmother’s stress!

Is Vanessa overreacting and jumping to conclusions?  Should she just call her grandmother and let her know she’d like to cash in and book her appointment at the spa?  Or, should she let the whole thing go in effort to avoid any possible embarrassment or conflict?

Tell us what you think! 

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4 Responses to “The Sort Of Gift Card”

  1. Sue Kiene says:

    What if grandma has not forgotten about it and feels rather slighted if it is never brought up/used. Realistically though 4 months is rather a long time to have never brought it up again and Vanessa should have at least told her grandmother that due to the hectic holidays, she did not intend to use the gift until the new year.

    On the same note though, she could tell her gracious grandmother that she knows that grandma is paying out of her pocket for alternative treatments for her hip and would hope that her grandmother would understand if she did not use the gracious gift since her grandmother’s health means more to her than the gift.

  2. Molly says:

    Unless Grandma is well to do financially, I’d drop it. While I know it’s a disappointment, Vanessa is 40, not 4, and Grandma suddenly needs additional monies to take care of her health.
    Asking for it now might put an undue financial burden on an ill, elderly woman.

    I wouldn’t mention it, and once Grandma gets better, she might ask Vanessa when she wants her spa day. If she doesn’t, it probably means Grandma can no longer afford it.

  3. louie says:

    Ignoring matters are never the right way to handle anything. I simply would tell Grandma that until she gets better and doesn’t need anymore treatments, you’d prefer to hold off on your spa day gift. Tell her the better gift would be to see her feeling better. You can always take that Spa Day when she feels better and she can then enjoy knowing you enjoyed yourself with her gift.

  4. saniel says:

    these little scenarios should be turned into a book. ur a grown woman save ur money and purchse ur own massage and spend more time with grandma by taking her to the doctor appointments.

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