Are You Living Up to Your Potential?
Listen up all you dreamers and success seekers out there. Yeah, you ladies who want it all. Success means something a little different to all of us, but no matter what your goals may be – know this – success is not a birth right. It takes drive and commitment to achieve your dreams. Whether you want to lose ten pounds, get that raise, or become rich and famous – success does not come overnight. The question is – is the work worth the payoff?
Lexi Petronis from Health.com spoke with top experts and pros who help people thrive in a variety of fields to gather the most simple yet effective ways to get exactly what you want. Here’s what they had to say!
Change the Way You Think & Change the Way You Act
“Women these days often juggle a lot of success goals, but research is showing that we can achieve the ones most important to us by making key changes in the way we think and act,” says Carol Dweck, PhD, a professor of psychology at Stanford University and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.
Think Big & Small
Success is almost always the culmination of a series of mini successes—something that’s easy to forget when you read about over-overachievers (we’re talking about you, Marissa Mayer). “At work, women often measure themselves by the endpoint, rather than progress made,” Dweck notes. Yet advancing yourself, whether in your career or level of fitness, is all about nailing small goals. A comprehensive California State University review of research on dietary and physical activity goals found that people were more likely to achieve specific ones—such as “walk one mile at lunch three times this week”—than grand, vague kinds like “exercise more often.”
What you can do: “Create a spreadsheet of goals, note the tactics and resources that will help, and schedule check-ins with yourself,” says New York City career coach Roy Cohen, who’s worked with thousands of Fortune 500 execs. By all means, share your aspirations and your progress; one study found that people who did weekly email updates with friends were 33 percent more likely to score success than those who just created goals.
Seemingly perfect Gwyneth Paltrow reportedly had one thing to say to haters: “Everything in my life that’s good is because I worked my ass off to get it and to maintain it.” She’s right, of course; connections and luck only get you so far.
Hard work’s a longtime tenet of success, though our culture doesn’t always prove it. “We see the Snooki types achieve fame and fortune for doing what seems to be nothing and think, ‘Why isn’t someone rewarding me?‘” says Scott Love, a legal search consultant who trains recruiters worldwide. While celebrities’ day jobs may seem nothing like ours, there’s almost always work involved in mega-success, he continues: “Spending real time and effort makes the difference between wishing you had something and actually getting it.”
What you can do: In the best seller Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell talks about the “10,000-hour rule”—the amount of practice required to ace a skill. But work won’t feel like a four-letter word if you’re passionate about what you’re doing. As for the inevitable tasks you dread, they’ll be more palatable if you focus on what you’ll get out of them, notes Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, author of Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness: “Instead of thinking, ‘I have to do this because my boss told me to!‘ think ‘If I do it, I’ll look even better to my boss.‘”| Print
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