Bridesmaid Dilemma


By Stephanie Berenbaum – republished August 13, 2013

Our recently engaged friend Darcy is in full on wedding planning mode. Last week, she asked her sister, her cousin and two close friends to be bridesmaids, and began looking for the perfect bridesmaid dress for her ladies. The problem: Darcy has really expensive taste..

Not really thinking about everyone’s financial situation, Darcy chose a beautiful jewel green designer dress that is close to $400 a pop.  When her cousin Janie saw the price tag, she confronted Darcy and told her unfortunately the dress was WAY out of her budget…

Darcy immediately offered to pay for Janie’s dress. But then it occurred to her – if she was paying for one bridesmaid’s dress, shouldn’t she really offer to pay for all of them?  Some of our friends thought she shouldn’t offer to pay for them unless other ‘maids complained about the price – while others felt if she was offering to buy one she should really offer to buy all of them…

So — what do YOU think Darcy should do?!

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3 Responses to “Bridesmaid Dilemma”

  1. Molly says:

    Really depends on everyone’s finances.
    Personally, I think it’s not very considerate to dictate what people should wear, but if you do, be prepared to pay for it.

    At my wedding, I asked my bridesmaids to wear black, as I didn’t want to put a burden on anyone. They all chose gorgeous, formal black dresses that looked incredible on them. I had my florist make them all identical flower combs to wear in their hair so they stood out as bridesmaids. My photos are magcificent.
    Another friend of mine asked her bridesmaids to wear a solid shade of lavender or purple. Again, no one was pressured to buy something they couldn’t afford or didn’t like. They all looked gorgeous.
    I was a Maid of Honor once, and could not afford the dress – I was just out of college and not earning very much. The bride paid for my gown, which I appreciated very much.

    I think that Darcy should take it on a case by case basis. If someone can’t afford the $400. dress, she should pay for it. She’s the one that’s demanding the cookie cutter look in her wedding photos.

  2. Sue says:

    When I got married, I paid for the bridesmaids dresses. The dresses were of a nice color and the style would have looked nice if the dress was shortened. I think that is the thing for the bride to do. $400 is ridiculous to spend for something that may only be good for that one day and will forever sit in a closet after that. I think at a minimum if she wants that particular dress she needs to cough up some money for all of the bridesmaids and she should pay at least 75% of it.

  3. Kenya Ostrem says:

    I just had my wedding last June and it was my mom who made the bridesmaids’ dresses. So yeah, if she is paying for one bridesmaid’s dress, then it’s only fair that she buys the rest of the bridemaids’ dresses. And I agree, $400 is ridiculously expensive for one dress. They should pick something else.

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