Deal Breaker?

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Our friend Kathy just started dating Mark – and we haven’t seen her this psyched about a guy in a long time.  After several relationships with struggling artists and writers, Mark really seems to have his sh*t together!  He’s a doctor, lives in a great loft, and drives a BMW – what’s not to love?

After their first few dates, Kathy and Mark started to talk about their pasts a bit more.  Kathy confided in Mark that financial stability was extremely important to her because she had dated some pretty unstable guys in the past. She told him how refreshing it was to finally date someone responsible…

Mark hesitated for a minute.  He then told Kathy that he wanted to be honest with her – not only did he have a ton of debt from medical school, but he’d gotten into some trouble with credit card debt and was just now working his way out of it.  Though he is working on shoring up his finances, the reality is he will be paying off debt for years to come, not to mention dealing with a mediocre (at best) credit score.

Kathy was totally taken aback.  The image Mark presented (and what Kathy chose to see) was very different from his reality.  Her instinct was to break it off then and there – she had no interest in getting involved with yet another financially unstable guy.  But then her friends talked her off the ledge – and pointed out that though he had past troubles, at least he told her about them – and was trying to fix them.

So – what would you do – would you take a chance on Mark? OR do you think his past actions are a pretty good predictor of what his financial future will be like?

Tell us what you think!

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4 Responses to “Deal Breaker?”

  1. Liz says:

    If she really likes this guy, keep dating him, just don’t intermingle any finances with him at all. Realistically she should really find out how much of an effort he is making to turn his financial situation around, if it looks like he is doing well and his actions show a positive turn, then maybe he is a keeper. If not and he is all talk….. Dump him quickly before he asks you to consign for him.

  2. Simone says:

    I agree with Liz. If he’s working to get his finances in order, then stay with him.

  3. louie says:

    This guy sounds like a keeper. He was upfront and honest, along with acknowledging the remedy he has now put into place. Successful couples compliment each other. She could greatly help him do a turn-around even quicker, if she is so financially savvy.
    If this is a deal breaker to her, maybe he should put on his track shoes and start running.

  4. Simone says:

    I agree with Louie.

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