Thanksgiving Dilemma


Our friends Amy and Alan are hosting 15 people for Thanksgiving this year – and preparation is in full swing!  Among the guests are Amy’s friend Lisa and her new boyfriend, Dan.  Amy is thrilled that Lisa is dating Dan and is looking forward to spending the holiday with both of them!

All was going according to plan until this morning, when Lisa called Amy.  She told her that due to bad weather on the East Coast, Dan’s brother and his wife and their two kids cancelled their plans to travel and would now be stuck here for Thanksgiving.  So…Lisa wanted to know if it was ok if they came to Amy and Alan’s for Thanksgiving too?

Amy is totally fine with it – but her hubby Alan is throwing a fit!  He thinks that if Lisa’s party of two has now turned into a party of 6, they should just host their own Thanksgiving.   Amy thinks Alan is totally missing the point and feels that being inclusive is exactly what Thanksgiving is all about!

So – what do you think?  Should they take a “more the merrier” approach and welcome Dan’s brother and his family?  Or should they tactfully suggest that he and his family make their own arrangements?  What do you think?

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4 Responses to “Thanksgiving Dilemma”

  1. Tasha says:

    Sounds like Alan needs to start sipping a bit of that holiday rum! Let us remember what Thanksgiving is really all about, giving gratitude for all the abundance in our lives. How beautiful that 19 people want to share the holiday together! That’s what people will remember, not what was served or if they have enough chairs.

    Let us all be grateful.

  2. Summer says:

    I am guessing that Lisa would be willing to assist (and perhaps her Sister in law as well). I would go with a “more the merrier” approach…drink an early morning Bloody Mary and roll with it. Thankful for my family and friends – new friends included.

  3. Nelly says:

    I think that it depends on a few things. How old are the kids? Amy and Alan’s place might not be childproof and having a couple of toddlers running around, possibly breaking knickknacks, spilling food & drinks is not what the hosts signed up for and shouldn’t have to endure.

    If the kids are teens or older than it’s a different matter. I don’t think Amy and Alan should feel obligated to add 6 people to their dinner, and I don’t think that Lisa and Dan should feel upset if Amy & Alan ask that they don’t come. I really think it’s up to the hosts and no one should have hurt feelings.

    Summer, interesting that you feel that all the assisting should be done by Lisa and the sister-in-law, and not Dan or his brother-in-law. Guess you feel that helping in the kitchen is strictly “wimmen’s work”.
    Wake up and welcome to the 21st century.

  4. Sue says:

    I agree with the more the merrier but also agree with Nelly regarding the children. Is this a party of all adults? But as in all of our holiday get together we do not expect the hosts to provide everything and I would hope that the unexpected guests would contribute to the feast.

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