Love Thy Neighbor?


Our friend Laura lives in an upscale apartment building in Manhattan.  All the residents are very grateful for – and dependent on – the service staff of the building.  And, of course, this is the time of year when that gratitude is shown with Christmas bonuses!

Each year the neighbors talk amongst themselves to gauge how much everyone else is giving to the doormen, maintenance staff, etc.  But this year Laura came up with a plan to work the holiday giving to her advantage…

Laura figured if she can give the most, she’ll probably get the best service in 2014.  So, rather than tell her neighbors what she is really giving the staff, she is telling them a lower number.  Laura’s hoping her neighbors agree to all give the lower number, then she can secretly give more – thus securing her position as the most generous tenant!

Some of our friends think this is sort of genius.  But others think it stinks – not only is it duplicitous, but it insures that the staff will actually get less money overall than they would get if Laura was honest.  Plus, will the added bump really insure she’ll get better service than the others?

Tell us what you think!

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4 Responses to “Love Thy Neighbor?”

  1. Molly says:

    Laura’s a b**ch and I’m sure her behavior towards her building staff reflects that. I’ve lived in Manhattan doorman buildings for the past 35 years and have always been treated well by the doormen and other building staff. Reason being: I’m nice to all of them, and I do small things all year long.
    If I’m on my way to the corner deli I’ll ask the on-duty doorman if he wants a coffee or soda. I put a big bag of candy on the doorman’s desk on Halloween, and other holidays. Sometimes I buy a tin of nice cookies and put them out for the staff’s break room. And when someone has to come to my apt to fix something, I tip generously.

    There have been a couple of years that I wasn’t working and apologized to the staff that I didn’t have anything to give. They all told me not to worry and were still nice to me all year long.

    Laura sounds like a conniving wench and I’m sure her building staff see right through it. No one if going to lower their gift to the doorman because of her say-so.

  2. Sue says:

    I am sure that she is not the first one to think of this concept nor will she be the last. Molly has good points above regarding what guarantee does she have. Is Laura nice to them all year long? I would think that they would appreciate that more.

  3. cat says:

    what molly said! treat others how you would like to be treated. money don’t buy you happiness (or doormen).

  4. Molly says:

    I hope I didn’t give the impression that I don’t tip my doorman and building staff. While there were a couple of lean years, I’m no longer in that situation. My guess is that I tip more than some, but less than others, and I’m fine with that. I tip what I can afford, and my building staff likes me because I’m nice to them. Also, due to my work, I often get free samples of cosmetics and I give those to the staff for their wives.

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