Inviting Conflict?


Our friend Anna is very wealthy – and puts her money to good use through her involvement with a bevy of charitable organizations.

Anna’s most recent project was chairing a huge gala for an international children’s charity – and the tickets were priced at a hefty $500 each.

After much thought, Anna decided not to send an invite to her friend Jan.  She knew Jan and her husband were struggling financially, and the last thing she wanted to do was make them feel any pressure from the invite…

Although Anna’s decision was well intentioned, it had the opposite effect – Jan ended up being really offended that she hadn’t been invited! Jan feels it would have been better for Anna to invite her, and then of course she could have declined.  Anna feels terrible, and of course was only trying to protect her friend’s feelings.

So – what do you think? Would it have been more gracious for Anna to send the invite? Or do you agree with her instincts?

Tell us what you think!

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2 Responses to “Inviting Conflict?”

  1. Sue says:

    I can understand what Anna was thinking but I tend to feel she should either have invited her or gone direct to her and talked prior to the invites going out.

  2. Misty says:

    I think that Anna should have invited her anyway. It’s the thought behind the action- Jan knew that Anna knew they were having financial trouble and let that effect them not being invited.

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