Our Friend Wants To Say No…
Our friend Nina came to us with an issue she’s having surrounding her daughter’s birthday party. In the past, Nina just invited a couple friends over to celebrate Hannah’s birthday. But this year she decided to invite all the girls in Hannah’s kindergarten class to a party at a children’s gym.
Nina was very surprised when many parents wrote back asking if it was ok to bring siblings as well? Nina told us that if she had wanted to include siblings, she would have written “siblings included” on the invite – and cannot believe that people are asking to bring uninvited guests to Hannah’s party. Other friends of ours think it is perfectly acceptable to ask because Nina can always say no, but Nina thinks it’s wrong of the guests to ask in the first place.
As Nina pointed out, extra guests mean extra cost to her – both because she is paying the gym per kid and also of course in terms of food, drink and party favors. She invited 20 girls to the party – if she says yes to siblings she could easily end up with a guest count closer to 35, and an extra cost of well over $100. So – what should Nina do? And who do you think is right here – if an invite doesn’t explicitly invite siblings, is it ever ok to ask?| Print