Are Siblings Invited?


Our Friend Wants To Say No…

Our friend Nina came to us with an issue she’s having surrounding her daughter’s birthday party.  In the past, Nina just invited a couple friends over to celebrate Hannah’s birthday.  But this year she decided to invite all the girls in Hannah’s kindergarten class to a party at a children’s gym.

Nina was very surprised when many parents wrote back asking if it was ok to bring siblings as well?  Nina told us that if she had wanted to include siblings, she would have written “siblings included” on the invite – and cannot believe that people are asking to bring uninvited guests to Hannah’s party.  Other friends of ours think it is perfectly acceptable to ask because Nina can always say no, but Nina thinks it’s wrong of the guests to ask in the first place.

As Nina pointed out, extra guests mean extra cost to her – both because she is paying the gym per kid and also of course in terms of food, drink and party favors.  She invited 20 girls to the party – if she says yes to siblings she could easily end up with a guest count closer to 35, and an extra cost of well over $100.  So – what should Nina do? And who do you think is right here – if an invite doesn’t explicitly invite siblings, is it ever ok to ask?

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4 Responses to “Are Siblings Invited?”

  1. Molly says:

    I can’t totally fault the parents for asking as sometimes when you assume a sibling isn’t invited, you then go to the party, and the hostess says, “oh of course Amy’s sister could have come”.

    So I don’t think Nina should get her knickers in a twist because some have asked, nor do I think she should feel awkward about saying ‘no’. When someone asks, she should just say, in a pleasant tone, “No sorry, no siblings. We’re keeping it for Hannah’s friends only”.

  2. Lynn says:

    I never ask to bring siblings unless the invitation says “siblings welcome” – people tend to think only of the one or two extra kids they want to bring and not what that number turns into if everyone asks to bring siblings. Kid parties are chaotic enough without adding a bunch of extra people (of various ages) to the mix. Personally, I assume if the host wants to include siblings, they will let me know – otherwise I don’t want to put them in an awkward position.

  3. Michele says:

    Maybe Nina could turn the party into a money maker for herself by saying it’s OK to bring siblings, but parent will need to pay $20 per extra kid (or whatever amount covers the gym plus food and extra stress of having the siblings). Most parents would be OK with this cause then they don’t have to find a babysitter for the sibling left behind.

  4. StephCherie says:

    I agree with Michele’s comment.
    Also, at least they are asking and not just showing up with the siblings…lol

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