by Brandi Savitt – updated June 2, 2014
What Are You Waiting for?
Looking to make a career change, move to a new city, or get into or out of a relationship? Well, what are you waiting for? We’re not suggesting that you dive head first into a potentially life altering or financially risky situation without planning ahead, but we are saying it’s time to STOP making excuses and go for it!
The F Word
Chances are, at any given time, the majority of us are fantasizing about making some kind of change in our lives. While many of these thoughts are fleeting, others are reoccurring – and could be the barrier to us finding real fulfillment. So, why don’t we pay attention to our own needs more often and do something about them? It’s not that we’re not smart and talented. At the end of the day, it’s not about money, and it’s not that we’re lazy. It’s simply FEAR!
Did you know that our brains are actually wired to be biased towards making decisions to keep us safe? This reaction is called negativity bias, and it certainly had a real purpose back in caveman times to keep us out of physical danger. The basic gist is, we tend to focus on the potential pain of a situation rather than the potential upside. However, in modern times the potential pain typically is no longer a life or death situation! Moral of the story: don’t miss out on the potential of greatness just to avoid the potential of something turning negative…
A successful friend of mine, who works behind the scenes on movies, was recently given a tremendous opportunity to direct her first feature film. When she signed on to the project, it was her job as the director to drive the casting of the film that would help lock in the financing. She knew the actors she wanted for each role, and even had worked with some of them in the past…
But she feared that if people knew that she was supposed to be directing this spring, they may not call and offer her other work. What if the financing for her directing gig didn’t come through? Then she’d be out of a job for the season entirely, and worse, what if actors got angry that she led them to a project that fell apart last minute (like that has never happened in Hollywood before). ALL EXCUSES OUT OF FEAR!
The simple reality – our friend needed to get on the train or get off the tracks. If she was ever going to become a real director, it was time to take a leap of faith and take the risk. More importantly, she needed to focus and put all of her energy and drive into helping secure the talent that would green light the film. When she finally got over her fear and out of her own way – that’s exactly what happened, and her movie goes into production at the end of the summer!
If you are waiting around for someone or something to change your life for you, you’ll be waiting an eternity. And if you do choose to take the risk to make that change, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen instantly. There is no such thing as an overnight success. Planning, working hard and perseverance are the keys. If you want something badly enough, first take the plunge and then stick with it. Perseverance turns opportunity into reality. And remember, even if you fail in the end, it was never possible at all unless you tried in the first place… Just get up and try again!