Invitation Only?


A few weeks ago, Jasmine received a wedding invitation to Kevin and Mindy’s upcoming destination nuptials.  Jasmine is thrilled for the couple.  She and Kevin are old friends (in fact they briefly dated ages ago), and she just adores Mindy.  But there’s one problem…  It doesn’t seem that Kevin and Mindy have invited Jasmine to bring a date.

Most of their other friends are married or in committed relationships, and while Jasmine is not dating anyone seriously, she has just started seeing someone and certainly doesn’t want to be ostracized from her friends and stuck alone at the singles table.

So, is it wrong for Jasmine to ask if she can bring a date?  Or should she just suck it up and make the best of it?

Tell us what you think!

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One Response to “Invitation Only?”

  1. Simone says:

    There’s not really a black & white answer here. In this case, I would say she shouldn’t ask. She just started dating someone, so it may be over by the time the wedding date rolls around. Also, frankly, I think bringing someone you’ve recently started dating puts pressure on them and other guests will ask questions, like, “You two next?”, etc. While I’d never do that, some will because people figure if you’re bringing someone to a wedding, you’re in a serious relationship.

    Also, why bring a date to a wedding? If Jasmine is friends with both the bride and the groom, chances are she’ll be with lots of friends, and having a date who doesn’t know anyone else will mean she has to worry about him having a good time instead of just doing what makes her happy.
    Lastly, Jasmine might be cutting herself off from meeting someone new, after all, it’s always good to have options.

    On the other hand, by the time the wedding date gets closer, if she and the guy are now in a serious relationship, if she’s close friends w/ the bride & groom, she can politely ask them, but say she totally understands if it’s an inconvenience.

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