Our friend Teri and her husband Rick recently bought a birthday gift for Rick’s mom: a birthstone bracelet. Rick’s mother, Ellen, is a fabulous grandmother – so Teri picked out a bracelet for her with a birthstone representing each of their three children…
The issue? Rick has two sisters who each have kids of their own – there are 7 grandchildren in total. Teri and Rick debated talking to his sisters about going in on the bracelet so they could afford to have birthstones for all the grandkids, but decided against it since both sisters are currently experiencing some financial stress. They ultimately decided to just have the gift be from their three kids.
Fast forward to the big birthday – Grandma Ellen loves her new bracelet, but Rick’s sisters are offended. They think it is in poor taste for Teri and Rick to give a gift representing only some of the grandchildren – and that it only highlights the financial disparity among the siblings. They don’t think Rick and Teri should have paid for gems for all the kids, just that they should have picked a different gift all together.
What do you think? Was it ok for Rick and Teri to give a gift representing only their children? Or would it have been better to avoid a birthstone present? Tell us what you would do!