Bracelet Brouhaha


Our friend Teri and her husband Rick recently bought a birthday gift for Rick’s mom: a birthstone bracelet.  Rick’s mother, Ellen, is a fabulous grandmother – so Teri picked out a bracelet for her with a birthstone representing each of their three children…

The issue?  Rick has two sisters who each have kids of their own – there are 7 grandchildren in total.  Teri and Rick debated talking to his sisters about going in on the bracelet so they could afford to have birthstones for all the grandkids, but decided against it since both sisters are currently experiencing some financial stress.  They ultimately decided to just have the gift be from their three kids.

Fast forward to the big birthday – Grandma Ellen loves her new bracelet, but Rick’s sisters are offended.  They think it is in poor taste for Teri and Rick to give a gift representing only some of the grandchildren – and that it only highlights the financial disparity among the siblings.   They don’t think Rick and Teri should have paid for gems for all the kids, just that they should have picked a different gift all together.

What do you think? Was it ok for Rick and Teri to give a gift representing only their children? Or would it have been better to avoid a birthstone present?  Tell us what you would do!



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3 Responses to “Bracelet Brouhaha”

  1. Molly says:

    I think it’s absurd. Rick’s sisters put Teri and Rick in a “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” situation. Had they asked Rick’s sisters beforehand, they would have been told they can’t afford it, or felt like they were being pressured to buy something they can’t afford and perhaps asked not to do it.

    And what if some of the kids have the same birthstones? Do they buy two of the same stones?

    There is so much “Mom” and “Grandma” jewelry out there at all prices, Rick’s sisters can buy their mother another gift with something that symbolizes their kids. Or they could possibly add stones to this bracelet.

    The sisters should get over it. Grandma doesn’t love Rick’s kids any more than she loves her other grandchildren.

  2. Alice says:

    Rick and Teri’s gift didn’t represent “some” of the children…It represented their children. A parent’s prerogative, of course. Sounds like the green eyed monster, jealousy, has reared its ugly head in their family.

  3. Liz says:

    If Rick had the financial means to buy the bracelet with all the kids gemstones it would have been great,but you can’t tell someone how to spend their money or what gift to get someone. I find it crazy when someone is having financial hardship to dare to criticize someone else for the way they spend their money. His siblings should have been happy for their mom. In the future they can add on to the bracelet with their children’s birthstones. We should all take off the chips on our shoulders and try to be better people to one another.

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